Dear Why Team member,
I hope this week’s message finds you well and appreciating your life.
At this writing I’m on a flight home from Greece - certainly a trip of a lifetime with my three children.
It’s a long story as to how this trip came together but, suffice it to say, I am extremely grateful it happened.
Recently, an advocate/coach of mine commented that my ability to re-frame is a super-power I have been developing since childhood.
How did it all start?
I can’t pinpoint the day but surely my dear mother’s positive attitude and wisdom had a big influence on me.
I suppose most, if not all, of these Why Team Weekly blogs revolve around the metaphors and analogies that rise up for me to work like paint on the canvas of my life - and to share them with you in the hope that you might do the same.
I can remember in my teens re-framing experiences to mine
silver from the linings around the inevitable clouds that formed in my life. However, in my adult life, I have been criticized for having a
“head in the clouds” - somehow creating discomfort, I suppose, in those who feel reframing to be a game disconnected from reality;
of course a reality as they “see” it.
I am aware that to rationalize could mean to tell ourselves “rational” lies in an effort to make reality more copacetic, but our experience of life IS how we “choose to see” life.
Some people wear worry like a talisman around their neck; thinking if they worry enough, they can keep away the things they worry about. Hmm, cause to pause?
Isn’t the worry of a thing similar to the actual negative experience of the thing happening that we worry about - whether it happens or not?
If worry is the definition of realism, I’ll choose differently, thank you very much.
Ever notice how happy people can bother unhappy people?
Why is it that some enjoy riding their moral high horse?
Is it Nietzsche’s Will to Power?
I suppose it feels better to be up high looking down on others - but does that really bring us happiness?
What are we to do with the peasants who appear happier despite all the judgements dispensed to them?
Remember those MasterCard commercials that listed out the cost of things, flights, meals, etcetera and then at the end of the ad they would state a value such as time with family as PRICELESS?
The trip to Greece wasn’t cheap,
it was PRICELESS!
Is this a re-frame? Yes, and it not only feels better, but as my good friend
Dr. Roger Hall often says, it has the added benefit of being true!
In time, the cost will be less and less consequential as the time with my kids becomes of more and more consequence.
This week and beyond, consider investing a bit more time into your gratitude list (it’s one of my most enjoyable activities) leaning more into that which in your life is priceless, having no price, such as the experience of loving and being loved, to be alive and experience living.
A life made all the more valuable when experienced with our loved ones: family and friends.
Yes, life has its costs, but living more presently our BEST DAY EVER?
Make it a great week!