Dear Why Team member,
I hope this weeks message finds you well, encouraged and telling empowering stories.
When is the last time you read a story from a book?
Just the other night, as I was saying goodnight to my youngest son who’s a full-grown teenager now, I remembered how sometimes he’d get bored by the bed-time stories I used to read to him and he’d ask me to “tell” him a story. I realized back then that we are all writers and story-tellers; we “write” our own story and we “tell” our story everyday in the way we speak about ourselves, to ourselves and inter-act with others. When is the last time you proactively re-viewed your stories; your story of you and your story of others?
Why Re-view? - Because the stories you tell set your limits or provide an environment of limitless possibilities.
It is commonly known that a fish tank too small can limit the growth of a fish. Your story of you can be likened to a fish tank. Your story of you, and your stories of others, can absolutely limit your growth potential. To address this condition in one's life, consider the power of the words you speak. How many words spoken by you are limited, fear-based and how many of the words you speak are limitless love-based?
How consciously aware are you of the words you speak? Are you consciously listening to yourself? Are you correcting yourself when you hear yourself speaking limits? It is fascinating how awake we can be to the limits others set upon themselves, while being so asleep to the words we speak and the limits we put upon ourselves.
Why is this all so important? - It is written in the ancient text that from the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Metaphorically speaking, it is the lies in our heart that most limit our thoughts, words and actions. Is it not easy to spot the anger in a person's heart by the words they speak? Is not anger born from fear? What words would you hear from a heart that overflows with love and compassion? Listening to our own words gives us direct access to the the condition of our lives. Consider those who exaggerate their stories. Why? Is the truth not enough? What harm could there be in a little uptick to your story? Hmm.
Is not exaggeration now tapping into the lie of shame, the lie of I'm not enough - my story is not enough.
"I'll just exaggerate a little, what harm is there?" Could the lies we tell ourselves be the most harmful story we tell, perpetuating the lie that the truth is not enough, perpetuating the lie that we are not enough? Asking why we say the words we say, tell the stories we tell, about ourselves and others, can work wonders to remove the walls of the tank within which we swim. Ask, "Why did I say that?" "Why did I exaggerate?" "Why was I so harsh, so critical, of myself or of others?" And how do the words I speak do more to limit than to expand the possibilities in my life?
The words we speak aloud have significant influence over the course of our lives, they limit or expand our ability to serve ourselves and others.
Kindness, compassion, forgiveness, all expand our tanks, or eliminate them all together as we move into an ocean of possibilities. We are not limited, but certainly have the ability to limit, both ourselves and others with the words we speak. Be more aware of what you speak aloud, and when appropriate, be quick to correct your speech to the positive if you have spoken limits, your limits or the perceived limits of others. Notice how the audience increases in number when you have positive stories to tell.
Speak into your own ears the possibilities and you will be more capable of achieving them. Be the change, speak the change and hear the change you want to see in your life and in the lives of others.
Make it a great week,