Dear Why Team member,
I hope this weeks message finds you well and excited about another week that YOU can make great. No matter what outside forces bring to your life, every research shows that to move forward YOU need to take action. And when you take action, you burn more fuel to proactively take a positive stance.
What about when things simply don’t work out?
Why is it that when we need a fix we so often choose the quick fix?
Surely you can think of quick and fast things like the internet or the microwave that bring much convenience to our lives but, I’m sure you’d agree that eating fast food too often is detrimental.
What is your quick fix?
Does it work?
How long is it before you need another one? We humans, at times, can just feel out of sorts- even to the point of saying:
“I need a quick fix".
While our minds, of course, are incredibly helpful, when not attended to they can run us off the road. If we are not paying attention, investing our attention in proactive ways, we can end up living a more reactive, quick fix dependent life.
Proactive living is empowering, reactive living is weakening and more dependent on the quick fix. If you consider your preferred fix, it is likely an action you take to distract your mind from it's constant preoccupations with what can go wrong in your life, your anxieties and fears? The mind retains very useful information by maintaining what is referred to as a
"continuity of consciousness", meaning that it retains over night, during our period of unconsciousness, what was learned in the day and days before. Of course we know that our minds retain very helpful and useful knowledge, but the mechanism that allows for this, means that our minds also retain our fears and limiting thoughts. The mind's preoccupation with the past as shoulda, coulda, woulda and the future as "what if this happens?" and "what if that happens?", can be so debilitating, it can even keep some people from leaving their home.
It is no wonder we can feel broken at times, thus desiring our favorite quick fix - fixes that can often become addictions.
Stop and analyze if you need more of an overhaul than a quick fix. Maybe an overhaul and/or a little more preventative maintenance.
Why just the band aide?
Hmm - cause to pause?
Consider that the best path for our preservation may be less about speculation or prognostication and much more about preparation.
How do you hit your daily marks to be your best version of you?
Remember at the beginning of the year we talked about setting fewer goals, marks, which we can more easily achieve? Actors, prior to a performance on stage, mark spots on the floor of the stage they must hit at specific times for them to achieve the results they desire. What are your marks and where have you placed them?
Successful people are simply people who are willing to do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Those who are a success in life, decide in advance the marks they want to hit, and through daily disciplines, they hit them. Unsuccessful people prefer the quick fix, the last minute bailout, preferring the path of least resistance over the daily, weekly and monthly disciplines that lead to success. Successful people prepare in advance to be the very best they can be - more often resisting what they want now for what they want most.
What do you say "yes" to on a daily basis that most people say “no" to? And if you do find that you are saying no to the behaviors important to you, more often than yes, ask yourself why. It is likely because you allowed your mind to become distracted, more reactive. Choose the power of attention and intention NOW!
Consider how easy it is to say no to the morning workout, and how much less dependent of a quick fix those who say yes to it regularly are.
I highly recommend you read the book titled, "The 12-Week Year" by Brian Moran, for a helpful life formula that will fuel a more intentional and empowering approach to life. There are 13 weeks in a quarter - a day is a week, a week is a month -
a 12-week year with the 13th week for celebration. Why celebrate New Years just once a year when you can celebrate it four times a year? It is off-the-charts powerful and all about the proactive repair and preventative maintenance of an outstanding life, a life that stands out from the crowd, the crowd that is so much more reactively dependent upon the quick fix.
Work on relying less on your quick fix. Be more intentional with your life and your future by being proactive about regular positive actions and positive maintenance. Invest more attention into who you want to be and why.
Place and know your marks - then hit them - and no doubt you will make it a great week, month, year and life.